Pregnancy: changing timesIt’s pretty much impossible to imagine what the changes feel like for your partner. While things seem big enough from your point of view, the feeling of ‘carrying’ a growing baby, the body changes and the hormonal ups and downs amount to a quantum leap for her.
As a first-time father you can expect several things, not least an overload of information. Almost a given in today’s world, there will be a sea of advice, diagnoses, best-practices and old wives’ tales you’ll find very hard to ignore.
The most useful piece of advice is along the lines of “Don’t stress. Listen to and consider as many views as you want, be prepared to try different things – then take only what works for your baby and family.”
There is good value in hearing other people’s stories so attend as many ante natal classes as you possibly can. You don’t have to take notes or remember everything, but even if you pick up a couple of little tricks or nuggets of knowledge, it will be worth it. The network that mothers form through ante natal classes will be very important after the birth so make time to attend or help make sure she can.
Be confident, the baby is yours too
Even if you’re not usually drawn to other people’s babies, don’t worry – blokes do have the instinct to confidently bond with children and babies. All it takes is a little courage and patience.
And although the focus has begun to move completely to the mother and baby’s arrival around this time, ensure that you make yourself known as the father and husband or partner whenever you’re in the company of others.